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Tips for meeting with students for whom you are concerned
Faculty and staff sometimes worry about sharing their concerns with a student directly. Among other things they worry about how the student will react, whether they will say the wrong thing, or if talking with the student might make things worse. In most cases, these fears are unwarranted and exaggerated:
- Will the student overreact or become upset? Probably not. We’ve had hundreds of conversations with students each year and almost every single student is grateful that anyone has expressed an interest in them personally. Most acknowledge the concerns and are very open to advice/suggestions. Often students believe that no one has noticed their struggles and having a professor or staff member express concern can really make a difference. Among the handful of students who become upset, it’s mostly based on being overwhelmed and not knowing where to go for assistance.
- Will you say the wrong thing? No, not if you share your concerns privately, without judgment, and with a willingness to listen to their perspective. We provide a specific “script” on how to have a conversation below. In most cases, the “right thing” to say involves sharing what you’ve observed, asking them to explain their perspective, and being willing to listen to them.
- Will you make things worse? No. Definitely not. If you are reading this, you care about students and that will be reflected in your conversations.
- But I’m not a Counselor; what can I really do to help? A lot! You don’t have to be a counselor to share that you care, express empathy, and encourage a solid connection with other resources and assistance on campus. There is no expectation that you take on a student’s concerns, only that you share your observations, listen, and encourage some problem-solving. No expertise required!
After asking the student to meet privately and asking a few starter questions (where are they from, why did they pick Elon), we recommend the following basic script for sharing concerns:
Supporting students with academic concerns
Faculty often wonder how to assist students with academic concerns in their classes. This includes:
- Students not showing up or who show up sporadically
- Students performing poorly or whose performance is irregular
- Students failing to communicate absences
- Students who seem disorganized
Below, we’ve included a few tips and resources for working with academically under-performing students:
Balancing student support and responsibility
Faculty often straddle the line between supporting students and holding them accountable to basic classroom fairness standards. While the initial response from most faculty is to ensure a student is getting proper support, they are often left with several lingering questions:
- How much leeway should be given for a student’s illness-related absences (if any)?
- When is it reasonable to deny a student an opportunity to make up work?
- Is it okay to suggest that a student consider a medical leave or other course withdrawal?
- How do I support a students well-being while not enabling unhealthy classroom habits?
Below, we present several important ideas to create and maintain a balanced approach toward student support and responsibility: